6 steps to being more decisive

Overcoming wedding indecisiveness | Jeanette Maree

Is your indecisiveness about everything from the bridesmaid dresses to wedding theme driving you nuts, well if your annoyed, imaging how your friends and family must be feeling. We know the easiest decision was saying yes, but now it’s time to make a whole lot more decisions. After all that wedding day can’t wait, it seems so far away at first but believe me it will come around quicker than you think While it’s super fun to flip through bridal magazines and browse Pinterest in search of new ideas, there comes a certain point when you just have to say, “I do” and commit, otherwise you are going to make the planning phase a huge chore instead of an enjoyable process. (trust me, I’ve seen a bride spend over 3 visits and 6 hrs deciding on an earring), that’s longer than some weddings.. So without further adieu, here’s how to actually get things done to Overcoming wedding indecisiveness:

Overcoming wedding indecisiveness, Go with your gut

It may seem so simple but often the best things are. If you have a gut reaction, your happy or loving something then it’s probably right. So put that on the short list and move on, only allow yourself 5 things you love on each list and then eliminate with help from fiancé friends or family. Eliminate again to three, When your set at three things the good news is any of them will be fine and be beautiful on the day. Once on that list don’t second guess or change your mind, only eliminate till you get to one. With this attitude you don’t need to fret about the perfect piece choose the one you like best. This is a great tactic you can use in all areas, dress, flowers, table centre pieces or accessories Love pastel, blush and peach-colour wedding dresses for your bridesmaids? Then don’t have them try on anything but peach dresses. “If you see them in a different hue you may change your mind.” It’s simply not worth the stress of having to start back at square one. Even if your brides maid wants to wear bold colours remember that it’s your vision for the day that counts.

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Ask for advice

Although asking your friends for advice can be a slippery slope, picking only one or two close trusted friends can actually be extremely helpful. Wedding suppliers can also be a great help offing advice and bridal tips in their given fields. They have a lot of practical knowledge and can often help with things you never thought about “If you trust their opinions, you should be able to move forward with a decision. “Keep your advice network to a minimum however, as the more people you seek out for advice, the more indecisive you will be.. The fact is that everyone has hugely different taste and bottom line is it’s your wedding. If you choose a dress your mother preferred, she’ll forget about it before your wedding day but you’ll remember every time you look at your bridal pics.

Look for patterns on your Pinterest Board

If you’re a bride using Pinterest to help you come up with the look and feel you like for your wedding, glance at your entire board and you’ll easily find some similarities, whether in colour, texture or design, This should help you arrive at a more informed decision you won’t regret. Once you see a pattern emerging split the board into specific topics. You can use this as a great tool later and link in suppliers to the board that relates to them



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Overcoming wedding indecisiveness, Stop looking for inspiration

Once you’ve finally made up your mind about flowers or figured out what type of invitations you want, clear out that specific search on Pinterest and move on. You’ll only drive yourself crazy second-guessing every little thing, Change of mind is a huge problem for brides and suppliers alike.

Keep the big picture in mind

Of course it’s easier said than done, but honestly, what’s the worst that could happen if you go with a less than perfect cake or save the dates, and what makes something perfect anyhow? Often there are many options that will work, not just one magic option. What makes perfect is that it’s the one you and hubby to be want, So many brides get stressed out about these decisions. However, in the grand scheme of things, they’re really insignificant if you’re marrying the man of your dreams. Your friends and family love you and are just happy to be there with you celebrating. You are your harshest critic and it helps to remember that when faced with big decisions.

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